Happy Mind, Happy Life

Our mindset plays a major role in how we manage challenges and opportunities, and our thoughts influence what we do, believe and think. Are you a glass half empty or glass half full type of person? When challenges come your way do you throw your hands in the air and walk away, or do you face the challenge head on and ready to overcome it?

There are a few areas in life where our thoughts play a particularly important role. One of these areas is your belief about yourself and your body image. Do you believe in yourself? Or do you constantly put yourself down and tell yourself that you cannot achieve the goals and dreams you have set for your life? In either of these, you are right! If I asked you to think for a moment, what are the 5 words you use most to describe yourself? Would they be negative or positive? We need to be conscious of how we speak about ourselves because what our mind hears, it does.

Did you know that our subconscious mind leads and controls 97% of our life? What we believe, why we believe certain things and how we respond and react in a certain way has everything to do with our subconscious mind. A great analogy is one of driving. When you drive to the shops, you have to put the car into gear by using the clutch and then using the break when necessary. We don’t consciously think “now I need to put my foot on the clutch and then use my hand to change the gear”. These actions are done subconsciously. This is the same with our mind and how we live. I know this may seem scary as one would think that we are then not in control of our lives! The good news is that we are in control of our lives and we can control our mind. By using NLP, we access the subconscious mind and re-program the way you think about certain beliefs and we assist you in getting rid of beliefs that do not serve you, that dis-empower and hinder your success.

What you are constantly focusing on also plays a big role in your happiness. If you always focus on the negative things in life, you will see the negative in all situations, and ultimately you will become a negative person. The same thing is true for being positive. Are you someone that looks for the negative in every situation? Or do you find the opportunities and possibilities in life? Remember, as you think, so you are and so shall you become. Make an effort to change the way you think about your situation and your life will be a lot more positive! Here’s my challenge to you: everyday write down three things that were positive about your day. It can be something as simple as “today I saw my best friend” or “today it rained”. Find those positives in your day and watch your life change!

Limitless living!

What Is My Trigger?

Image of head silhouette containing gears symbolizing an emotional trigger

“What is my trigger?” may seem like a random question and you could be wondering where I am going with this post. I assure you that this is one of the best questions you can ask yourself when you are going through a rough time or even when you are having a bad day. I like to call it the 3 steps to emotional awareness.

Every week I meet new people and I come across different people who very often ask the same question: “Why do I feel sad for no reason?” Or “I have been so angry lately and I have no idea why?” We all struggle with questions like these and I want to give you a practical tool in helping you with these types of questions.

Get to the Root

Firstly, we always want to get to the root cause of a problem to be able to understand what is going on, work through it and let it go. For that reason, we need to identify the root cause or trigger. Ask yourself what could have triggered these emotions? Was it something that someone said to me or about me that triggered these feelings? Have I been under a lot of stress lately that has contributed to these overwhelming feelings of sadness or anger? Or perhaps you experienced a traumatic event in the past, which you have not completely dealt with yet? Once the root cause has been identified, understanding why you are feeling a certain way will enable you to work through that moment and then easily let go of the emotion.

Be Practical

The second step is to work through it or to do practical things in overcoming this trigger. Sometimes we cannot work through it at the time, so acknowledging and embracing the emotion in that moment is the best way to get through it. Be mindful.

For example, let’s say you have been anxious for a few days and you realised that the anxiety was due to something someone said, 3 days ago, which triggered an anxious response within you. You can go back in your mind and think about what that person said and ask yourself why that specific topic made you anxious?  Maybe then you figure out that subconsciously you made a connection with the shared story, due to your own past experience which helps you make sense of the emotions you are feeling. Just by acknowledging the negative emotion, it does something in the mind, where one either feels much better or the emotion no longer brings a sense of anxiety.

Let it Go

Now that you have identified the trigger and you have worked through the emotion or have acknowledged and embraced the emotion, the third step is to let it pass or let it go.

Let’s say you acknowledged that your anxiety was caused by an event in the past that hurt you, and you want to let it go . Consequently, the only way you can fully deal with the hurt is to face the negative emotion. The technique used here would be Time Line Healing, a powerful and effective way to get rid of negative emotions. For more information on Time Line Healing, or if you would like Time Line Healing, please contact me and together we will work through your needs. Please note that a Time Line Healing Practitioner should conduct Time Line Healing as a guided process is much easier to follow. I know it would be a lot easier if you could do it all by yourself!

Sometimes step 3 is not necessary (Time Line Healing) and by embracing the feeling and the emotion, they will pass. Therefore, rather embrace and acknowledge the emotion, otherwise you will suppress the negative emotion. Suppressed negative emotions stay in your mind/body and cause diseases and internal conflict.

If for any reason you cannot figure out a root cause or trigger to how you are feeling, it could be a hormonal response or a lack of nutrition. If the root cause to your negative feelings is due to a past traumatic event and you do not know how to overcome it, please contact me.

Live Abundantly

This 3 step process is a wonderful tool and assists you in becoming more aware of your feelings and solutions to those emotions. You can use this tool in any situation and with any emotion. None of us have to be a victim of our circumstances or of our emotions. We were created to live life to the fullest and in abundance! Limitless living!