Why Coaches Need Coaches

Coaches need coaches; no matter how good you are at your job you always need help

Can we agree that all of us struggle with motivation, inspiration and finding new ideas? Sometimes we need someone to kick us under the bum and say “get up, you can do this!” I have found myself experiencing this for a few months now and I decided that I needed to make a change!

Most of the time we think to ourselves that as professionals we need to look like we have it all together. We need to be viewed as always successful and not struggling along, and that we are the ones that always practice what we preach. Do you think this is the case? Not at all! None of us are perfect and even coaches need coaches to support them on life’s journey.

Here are my four reasons why coaches need coaches:

A new perspective

We all have our own views and our ideas on how to run our business or what is needed to be done in order to succeed in our lives. Sometimes we find ourselves stuck in a certain situation or we don’t know where or who to turn to for help. I have been stuck in a situation for a while now regarding my business goals and wondering how to implement them. I finally asked a fantastic friend, Business Coach and Training Specialist, Taryn-Lee Kearney for help, and her perspective today gave me the “aha” moments I have been needing. Getting a fresh perspective gives you a clearer understanding or a renewed sense that you are going in the right direction.

To stay motivated and accountable

So often I find myself saying “I’ll do it tomorrow” and when tomorrow comes I find another reason why I should postpone taking action towards achieving my goals. As I am the only person in my coaching business, it is easy to get lazy and complacent because I have no one to report to or to hold me accountable to my word.

Self-discipline

Self-discipline is a huge need when it comes to entrepreneurship. One can easily lose self-discipline if one gets too comfortable working from home. After seeing Taryn this morning, I have definitely realized that self-discipline is a must! I need to find ways to stay disciplined, motivated and inspired. Luckily I am now more motivated than ever and I have already ticked two “to do’s” off my list in a matter of one hour! For future reference, I need to get together with like minded people and brainstorm about my business and my possibilities. I know that these get-togethers energize me. Find ways or people that energize you and motive you.

All of us have unique set of talents and gifts

One of the main reasons why coaches need coaches, or counsellors need counsellors, is because we all have a unique set of skills and talents to offer. My strengths build up my colleagues and when I struggle with implementing a goal or strategy, Taryn for example, has her strengths in business coaching and builds up my ability and confidence. Everything in life works as a give and take and as a “what you sow is what you reap”. Are you reaping the rewards of your actions? Are you creating the results you desire?

So often we think that our colleagues or people within our career field are competitors and that we are running a race against one another. I like to look at it as “let’s help one another reach our full potential” by supporting each other with our unique set of skills by empowering one another to excel for excellence.

Do you have a coach or someone to motivate you and keep you accountable? If so, please share your personal stories of how they have helped you. If you don’t have a coach, pop me an email and we can chat!

Limitless living!

What Is My Trigger?

Image of head silhouette containing gears symbolizing an emotional trigger

“What is my trigger?” may seem like a random question and you could be wondering where I am going with this post. I assure you that this is one of the best questions you can ask yourself when you are going through a rough time or even when you are having a bad day. I like to call it the 3 steps to emotional awareness.

Every week I meet new people and I come across different people who very often ask the same question: “Why do I feel sad for no reason?” Or “I have been so angry lately and I have no idea why?” We all struggle with questions like these and I want to give you a practical tool in helping you with these types of questions.

Get to the Root

Firstly, we always want to get to the root cause of a problem to be able to understand what is going on, work through it and let it go. For that reason, we need to identify the root cause or trigger. Ask yourself what could have triggered these emotions? Was it something that someone said to me or about me that triggered these feelings? Have I been under a lot of stress lately that has contributed to these overwhelming feelings of sadness or anger? Or perhaps you experienced a traumatic event in the past, which you have not completely dealt with yet? Once the root cause has been identified, understanding why you are feeling a certain way will enable you to work through that moment and then easily let go of the emotion.

Be Practical

The second step is to work through it or to do practical things in overcoming this trigger. Sometimes we cannot work through it at the time, so acknowledging and embracing the emotion in that moment is the best way to get through it. Be mindful.

For example, let’s say you have been anxious for a few days and you realised that the anxiety was due to something someone said, 3 days ago, which triggered an anxious response within you. You can go back in your mind and think about what that person said and ask yourself why that specific topic made you anxious?  Maybe then you figure out that subconsciously you made a connection with the shared story, due to your own past experience which helps you make sense of the emotions you are feeling. Just by acknowledging the negative emotion, it does something in the mind, where one either feels much better or the emotion no longer brings a sense of anxiety.

Let it Go

Now that you have identified the trigger and you have worked through the emotion or have acknowledged and embraced the emotion, the third step is to let it pass or let it go.

Let’s say you acknowledged that your anxiety was caused by an event in the past that hurt you, and you want to let it go . Consequently, the only way you can fully deal with the hurt is to face the negative emotion. The technique used here would be Time Line Healing, a powerful and effective way to get rid of negative emotions. For more information on Time Line Healing, or if you would like Time Line Healing, please contact me and together we will work through your needs. Please note that a Time Line Healing Practitioner should conduct Time Line Healing as a guided process is much easier to follow. I know it would be a lot easier if you could do it all by yourself!

Sometimes step 3 is not necessary (Time Line Healing) and by embracing the feeling and the emotion, they will pass. Therefore, rather embrace and acknowledge the emotion, otherwise you will suppress the negative emotion. Suppressed negative emotions stay in your mind/body and cause diseases and internal conflict.

If for any reason you cannot figure out a root cause or trigger to how you are feeling, it could be a hormonal response or a lack of nutrition. If the root cause to your negative feelings is due to a past traumatic event and you do not know how to overcome it, please contact me.

Live Abundantly

This 3 step process is a wonderful tool and assists you in becoming more aware of your feelings and solutions to those emotions. You can use this tool in any situation and with any emotion. None of us have to be a victim of our circumstances or of our emotions. We were created to live life to the fullest and in abundance! Limitless living!