Why Coaches Need Coaches

Coaches need coaches; no matter how good you are at your job you always need help

Can we agree that all of us struggle with motivation, inspiration and finding new ideas? Sometimes we need someone to kick us under the bum and say “get up, you can do this!” I have found myself experiencing this for a few months now and I decided that I needed to make a change!

Most of the time we think to ourselves that as professionals we need to look like we have it all together. We need to be viewed as always successful and not struggling along, and that we are the ones that always practice what we preach. Do you think this is the case? Not at all! None of us are perfect and even coaches need coaches to support them on life’s journey.

Here are my four reasons why coaches need coaches:

A new perspective

We all have our own views and our ideas on how to run our business or what is needed to be done in order to succeed in our lives. Sometimes we find ourselves stuck in a certain situation or we don’t know where or who to turn to for help. I have been stuck in a situation for a while now regarding my business goals and wondering how to implement them. I finally asked a fantastic friend, Business Coach and Training Specialist, Taryn-Lee Kearney for help, and her perspective today gave me the “aha” moments I have been needing. Getting a fresh perspective gives you a clearer understanding or a renewed sense that you are going in the right direction.

To stay motivated and accountable

So often I find myself saying “I’ll do it tomorrow” and when tomorrow comes I find another reason why I should postpone taking action towards achieving my goals. As I am the only person in my coaching business, it is easy to get lazy and complacent because I have no one to report to or to hold me accountable to my word.

Self-discipline

Self-discipline is a huge need when it comes to entrepreneurship. One can easily lose self-discipline if one gets too comfortable working from home. After seeing Taryn this morning, I have definitely realized that self-discipline is a must! I need to find ways to stay disciplined, motivated and inspired. Luckily I am now more motivated than ever and I have already ticked two “to do’s” off my list in a matter of one hour! For future reference, I need to get together with like minded people and brainstorm about my business and my possibilities. I know that these get-togethers energize me. Find ways or people that energize you and motive you.

All of us have unique set of talents and gifts

One of the main reasons why coaches need coaches, or counsellors need counsellors, is because we all have a unique set of skills and talents to offer. My strengths build up my colleagues and when I struggle with implementing a goal or strategy, Taryn for example, has her strengths in business coaching and builds up my ability and confidence. Everything in life works as a give and take and as a “what you sow is what you reap”. Are you reaping the rewards of your actions? Are you creating the results you desire?

So often we think that our colleagues or people within our career field are competitors and that we are running a race against one another. I like to look at it as “let’s help one another reach our full potential” by supporting each other with our unique set of skills by empowering one another to excel for excellence.

Do you have a coach or someone to motivate you and keep you accountable? If so, please share your personal stories of how they have helped you. If you don’t have a coach, pop me an email and we can chat!

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Do You Know Perfect Lily?

Freedom from anxiety and pressures that we put on ourselves when we strive for perfection.

Have you ever met perfect Lily? Lily has always been the perfect person, never failing at anything and everyone just loves her! You think to yourself “If only I was more like Lily! If only I could do just as well as Lily does at Maths, or I wish I could be more sporty or more musical. Lily is just perfect! She looks amazing, she can eat anything she wants and doesn’t even put on weight! She has had a wonderful upbringing, she has so many friends and even the guys love her!” I am certain that all of us have had similar thoughts like the ones above.

Well to tell you the truth, Lily is not doing as well as you think. All of the pressure of being that skinny girl, the sporty one, the musical one and the one everybody loves, is getting to her. She is no longer coping in life. Anxiety and exhaustion are a constant factor in her life, the fear of failure plagues her, her desperate need for approval and acceptance is all she can think about; and to keep up with the perceptions people have of her, she abuses her body to look thin and perfect.

The thoughts that go through her head daily are “I need to be better, I need to be thinner, I need to be more acceptable, I need to be who everybody thinks I am! The worst of all is that people think I am happy and perfect, when in fact I am suffering from anorexia and the need for love. I would not wish this on anybody! In fact, I think suicide is the only answer.”

It seems now that Lily is not so perfect anymore. Why are you comparing yourself to Lily? “Lily” can be anyone or anything that you think is better than you are. What do they have that you don’t have? What price have they paid to get it and would you pay the same price? You are incomparable because there is no one else in the world like you! How can you begin to compare yourself to someone else who has a totally difference genetic structure, a different perception of the world, different strengths, different weaknesses and difference beliefs? You complete a piece of the puzzle in this world and only you can fill that space! Believe in yourself!

Luckily Lily identified that she needed help and she contacted someone who could help her. The right skills, coping mechanisms and techniques were given to her that she needed in order to cope with the anxiety and fear of failure. Lily has moved from an unhealthy situation into a space of self-love and acceptance. Perhaps you know “a Lily” or you wish to be like “Lily”. Remember that you are victorious and an overcomer.

Contact Us now to book a coaching session, so you can be your own Lily.

Limitless Living!